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  1. Michelle
    Michelle January 19, 2015 at 8:12 pm | | Reply

    That was too much texting and emailing. Teddy seems at BEST needy…at worst…one of those assholes who want to infiltrate every part of your life so that he can do his own housekeeping.

    I agree with your friend..give it 3 dates..have fun at dinner and the show..but be careful. I don’t know if I trust this guy.

  2. Considerer
    Considerer January 20, 2015 at 12:23 am | | Reply

    Something about him puts me off. A lot off. Have the dinner, see the show, then extricate yourself (if you can). He’s too clingy and he hasn’t ‘heard’ your requests for him to slow down and not be so forward. It concerns me that he might not listen in other areas, either.

    Be careful.

    And I wasn’t initially physically attracted to Husby, not in the loin-tingly way you describe (the way we’d all prefer) but I was immediately attracted to his person as a whole, and within an hour of meeting him face to face for the first time (we’d been in touch online before but just as casual friends in a forum – there was no interest there really) I knew that he would be a good husband and a good father and was a good person. I felt a touch of destiny about him.

    The lack of physical attraction has sometimes been quite difficult but he’s SUCH a wonderful person, and it’s kinda come with time, if that makes sense. There are physical attributes about him I really like, such as his eyes or his hair, but it was never a physical lust thing for me. Thank goodness, because it can’t ever have been for him, either!

  3. eva
    eva January 20, 2015 at 9:08 am | | Reply

    Hmmmm – tricky. I think if you have a genuine friendship with someone anything IS possible but to be honest if you don’t feel even the faintest spark of attraction after a handful of meetings it may never happen.

  4. Val
    Val January 20, 2015 at 10:59 am | | Reply

    Yep – doesn’t quite sound right! Not that sparks have to fly right from the get-go, but I’ll tell ya my own “Teddy Bear” story…
    15 yrs ago, freshly divorced, scared to death upon re-entering the dating scene after 14 yrs of marriage, after a couple of disastrous “set-ups”, I signed up at one of Big D’s original dating services, figuring “you get what you pay for”…
    P was my 1st Responder – certainly “My Type” in the tall, dark & handsome sense but about 60 lbs overweight when we had our 1st date! (I certainly had no room for criticism since I was packing about 30 lbs more than my “ideal” early-20’s weight) However, I felt that physical attraction to him from the start – in my experience that’s something that’s either “on” or “off” – if I haven’t felt any chemistry, I’ve never let things progress past a 1st or 2nd date.
    (Sparks certainly flew between us in the early stages of our courtship/marriage, although w/the passage of time, health & weight issues on BOTH sides have dampened the flames, so to speak. Obviously something I need to blog about since I place FAR too much emphasis on physical interactions – when P hasn’t made a pass at me in WEEKS it really harshes my mellow, also menopause has crashed my libido 🙁

  5. April
    April January 20, 2015 at 12:45 pm | | Reply

    Keep in mind I have never attempted online dating. But that many emails in that short of a time would have drove me INSANE. The neediness and pushiness would turn me off. He seems like the type where you give an inch and he tries to take a mile. The fact that he doesn’t seem to hear what you’re telling him his rather obnoxious too.

    It sounds like he may be so desperate for a relationship that he is freaking out potential dates with the constant stream of “hey, look at me! lets go on a date! I don’t care about anything as long as we go on another date!”

    Or, on the flip side, it could be something more a long the lines of too cocky. Like she will want to know everything about me, all the time. And Who wouldn’t want to go on a date with me? just drinks? I guess, but she will want to do more after she spends time with me.

    The fact that he doesn’t listen to what you tell him, almost makes me think it’s the second one. Like he is too self absorbed and a “Catch” to hear you

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