It’s always so nice to get validation for a job well done. Maybe your boss lets you know that he really appreciated that you’re so dependable and that your last project was just wonderful (Not that I have any experience in this area. When my boss actually comes to work, she would much prefer to point out mistakes instead of passing out compliments). Maybe your husband really loved that new recipe you found or that new move you tried out in bed (It’s been a long while since I’ve gotten kudos for either). But I think the best kind of validation is when a fellow writer/blogger lets you know that they love your stories. When you tell stories from the heart, sometimes sharing situations or emotions that no one in real life even knows, it’s liberating, but sometimes terrifying. To know that other people get you, appreciate you, and don’t judge you is a wonderful thing.
So, when Annie at Under and Over, Around and Through nominated me for the Very Inspiring Blog Award, it made me smile and I got a little warm spot in my tummy (that might just be indigestion, but just go with me here).
I found Annie not too long after my husband left me. I was heartbroken, scared, and lonely. I was searching for answers – and while I wasn’t getting any information from Doc on why he didn’t want to work on the marriage, I thought that maybe other people who were going through the same type of situation might have some insight on how I could keep from going crazy. So I typed “Divorce” into the search bar on WordPress and Annie’s site came up – and I immediately liked her.
So, the rules for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award are:
- The nominee shall display the respective logo on her/his blog and link to the blogger that has nominated her/him.
- The nominee shall nominate ten (10) bloggers she/he admires, by linking to their blogs and informing them about the nomination.
But, you know me – I’ve been a rebel since I was a kid, so I rarely follow the rules and I give all of my nominees permission not to follow the rules to the letter either. If you want to nominate ten bloggers, knock yourself out – if you only want to nominate two or three, that’s great. If you just want to bask in the glow of knowing that you inspire me, but you’re too lazy to nominate anyone, I can handle that (and I’ll still continue thinking you’re swell).
Here are my nominees – all women who I find fascinating and would love to hang out with on a regular basis.
Aussa at Hacker. Ninja. Hooker. Spy. Aussa was the first person ever to comment on my blog and the first blogger I ever met in real life. And yes, she is just as fabulous in person as she is in her adventures. I’m old enough to be her mommy, but she has probably done twice the living that I have done. She makes me believe it is possible to buy a ticket for an exotic locale on a whim and, with no planning, spend months or years just wandering and enjoying life. I may never be brave enough to do exactly that – but I do plan to be an ex-Pat in a few years before I get too old to have any more adventures.
Michelle at Rubber Shoes in Hell. I think Michelle and I are sisters separated at birth. I’ll read her posts and it’s like the girl is in my head – in a good way. She’s inspiring to me because she is brave – even though something scares the shit out of her, she still powers forward despite the fear. Also, Michelle apparently makes this fantastic French toast and she has promised to make it for me one day – so of course I have to meet her in real life!
Lizzi at Considerings. Here’s what you need to know about Lizzi – she is probably one of the best human beings I know. If everyone was like Lizzi, the world would be a happier, peaceful, and more compassionate place. She seems to be constantly thinking of other people and she doesn’t seem to get that she is so fantastic. It’s like that One Direction song (not that I ever listen to 1D or anything) “You Don’t Know You’re Beautiful”. Hmmm…now I think that I perhaps should actually read the lyrics of that song, because I think I may have just propositioned Lizzi.
Maurna at Cursitivity. This chick is hilarious, but I do have one problem with her – I want her to post a new story every day because…she is hilarious! Also, Maurna practically has a bionic heart – for reals! I personally think its all part of a plan where she eventually becomes a superhero. Now we just have to come up with an excellent name for her when she does.
Sandy at An Honest Sinner. I found Sandy on her first blog, “Mother of Imperfection” – but one day, she decided that she wanted to take a different route, so as she put it, she “chucked it in the fuck it bucket,” and started over. I think that took guts and courage – and also – now I want my own fuck it bucket. Sandy, I think you should make these and sell them – you’d be a millionaire and the rest of us could just chuck shit in the fuck it bucket. It would make life infinitely better.
I could go on and on – there are some great bloggers out there and I never miss their posts. They trigger great memories, are muses for some of my best posts, and they all inspire me (or make me incredibly envious – it just depends on the day). I’d list each and every one, but I’m having a party this weekend and have to scrub the kitchen floor on my hands and knees like Cinderella without all of the helpful little mice and bird friends. I have cats – but you’ve seen Cinderella – the cat is an evil, sadistic, sarcastic bastard who wouldn’t lift a claw to help a girl out – so I don’t expect any help with my housework.
Assuming my fingers don’t fall off this afternoon– I’ll be posting on Friday along with more than 1000 others, all of us talking about compassion and what it means to us. It’s not too late to join in – just Google #1000speak to find out more.